What If Your Partner Wants to Become a Surrogate?
Becoming a Surrogate is a big life-changing decision.
So, the news of your partner choosing to become a Surrogate can be a bit shocking. As their spouse or life partner, you may want to do all you can to support them. However, it can be challenging to work through the conflicting emotions you are feeling at the moment.
Some partners of women who desire to be a Surrogate mother are encouraging, supportive, and proactive. But still, others may feel anxious, worried, and unsure of the process ahead.
There is no “wrong” or “right” way to feel about this decision. However, you need to know that your support is going to be an essential part of this journey. Therefore, in this article, we will look at some of the things you should know when your partner chooses to become a Surrogate – and some ways you can support her.
Working Through Your Difficult Emotions
It’s uncommon to find out that your partner wants to be a Surrogate. So, we can tell that you have a lot of questions. However, you need to know that your partners didn’t just arrive at this decision.
The decision to become a Surrogate involves several factors. Maybe your partner has always dreamed of helping another person build their family. Or, perhaps she just stumbled upon the idea recently and decided it is a good path for her to follow, after a lot of research.
You may also be experiencing mixed emotions. Some partners support the surrogacy idea, which makes the journey much easier for the partners. However, some spouses are not supportive of the decision to become a Surrogate mother.
First of all, we want you to know that you are not the first person to feel this way. Also, remember that these feelings can be changed. The emotions you are feeling may stem from a position of misunderstanding. You may not know much about Surrogacy and may be worried that it will affect your spouse’s health and your relationship.
It will be very difficult, if not impossible, for your partner to move ahead if you are not supportive of her surrogacy goals. She needs all of the support she can get during this life-changing, roller-coaster journey. So, before turning down her idea, it is important to hear what she has to say. You may even be convinced.
How to Support Your Partner If She Wishes to Become a Surrogate
We understand that the surrogacy process can be stressful for anyone. So, below are some tips on how to support your partner through her surrogacy journey.
- Learn about Surrogacy: It is vital that partners know about Surrogacy and what it entails to be a Surrogate. If you don’t know about the surrogacy process, you might be wary of the whole thing. Fortunately, there is a lot of information available for you, and now is the best time to learn. Before reaching her decision, your partner will have also conducted her own research. So, don’t be afraid to ask her any questions you have about the process.
- Spill it out: Your partner would like to know what you are thinking – so don’t keep it to yourself. Once you have learned about the surrogacy process, use that knowledge to tell her your thoughts instead of just saying no. As a loving partner, you should have no problem sharing your misgivings with your spouse so that both of you can arrive at a solution together.
- Remind your partner you are available to help. Your partner should be your partner in everything. It would help if you reminded her you are always there to hear whatever she wants to say. When things don’t go according to plan, she needs to know you will be there to listen. For the next 12 months or thereabout, she will rely on you when things become tough.
Physician’s Surrogacy offers an excellent resource for information and support for any matters regarding Surrogacy. If you or your partner have any questions about becoming a surrogate or regarding the surrogacy process, check out our Become a Surrogate website at www.PhysiciansSurrogacy.com . To find out whether you qualify to become a surrogate fill out our surrogate application.